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Trigger Alert: Emotional Landmines we can’t tiptoe around

Hello, hello. Welcome to another episode of Naked Relationships Post-Trauma. Today, we delve into the complex world of triggers, exploring why they are essential to understand and manage after recovery from an abusive situation.
We discuss the impact of triggers on personal well-being and interpersonal dynamics, highlighting how they can affect anxiety, guilt, shame, and fear. Learn about the different types of triggers—external and internal—and how they manifest in our daily lives.
Through real-life examples and expert insights, this episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, healthy coping mechanisms, and the role of the brain in processing traumatic experiences. Discover how triggers can influence conflicts, emotional responses, and relationship dynamics.
Join us as we explore strategies to manage triggers, foster emotional intimacy, and build a supportive environment for healing. Don't miss out on valuable tips for reprogramming your brain, grounding techniques, and the significance of open communication in relationships.
Finally, learn about the Finally Connected program, designed to help you dominate your triggers and reclaim control over your life and relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand and navigate the complexities of post-trauma triggers.

Do you have a Codependent Relationship?

Hello, my lovelies, and welcome to another insightful episode! Today, we're diving into the complex topic of codependency. Are you feeling overwhelmed or stressed, like nobody understands you? You might be dealing with codependency in your relationships.
Codependency is a psychological concept often used to describe a type of dysfunctional relationship where one person is overly reliant on another for their emotional or psychological well-being. This often involves one person assuming the role of caretaker while the other is dependent, leading to unhealthy patterns that are hard to break.
We'll explore the characteristics of codependency, such as excessive care and support, control, over-involvement, low self-esteem, poor boundaries, difficulty expressing emotions, and enabling destructive behaviors. These traits can manifest in various relationships, not just romantic ones, but also in friendships, professional dynamics, and parent-child interactions.
Understanding the root causes of codependency is crucial. Often, these behaviors stem from past abuse or neglect, leading to a deep-seated need for approval and control. Whether it's emotional, verbal, or physical abuse, these experiences shape how we interact with others and view ourselves.
We'll discuss how to recognize these patterns in your own life and the importance of setting healthy boundaries. Accepting that change is necessary is the first step towards reclaiming your sense of self. Join us as we navigate through examples of codependency in various relationships and learn strategies to break free from these unhealthy cycles.
Don't forget to check out our Finally Connected program, an eight-week journey to help you find freedom and connection with yourself. Change starts with recognizing the problem and taking proactive steps towards a healthier you.
Take the time to understand your boundaries this week and start your journey towards a more balanced and fulfilling life. See you next week!

Who Do We Gaslight the Most?

Hello, everyone! Welcome to another episode of Naked Relationships Post-Trauma, hosted by Angela. Today, Angela dives deep into a sensitive topic that reveals her most vulnerable side. She discusses her recent traumatic experience and uses it as a springboard to explore the concept of gaslighting.
What is gaslighting? How does it differ from manipulation? And most importantly, who do we gaslight the most? Angela provides insights into how we often gaslight ourselves, questioning our own feelings and perceptions.
Throughout the episode, Angela challenges listeners to reflect on their own boundaries, triggers, and self-awareness. She emphasizes the importance of knowing oneself to identify when we are being gaslit, either by others or by ourselves.
Join Angela as she shares practical advice on reclaiming your boundaries, dominating your triggers, and building genuine connections. If you're ready to stop self-sabotaging and start validating your feelings, this episode is a must-listen!

My Narcissists Control Over Me

Welcome to episode two of my rebranded podcast! This week, we delve into the complex and painful dynamics of narcissistic relationships, drawing from my personal experiences with an ex-partner. We'll explore how narcissistic traits can affect us, the distinction between having these traits and being a true narcissist, and the impact of emotional abuse on self-worth.Join me as I share candid stories about the subtle and overt ways narcissists degrade and control their partners, and the journey to reclaiming one's sense of self. We'll also discuss the importance of validating your own feelings, setting boundaries, and the continuous process of personal growth. Plus, get an exclusive preview of my new program designed to help you dominate your triggers and reclaim your boundaries. Stay tuned for upcoming episodes featuring special guests, including my daughter and boyfriend, as we continue to navigate the path to self-love and empowerment.

Naked Relationships Post-Trauma: Welcome to Me

Welcome to the rebranded podcast, Naked Relationships Post-Trauma, where vulnerability meets raw truth. Join Angela Spooner, a trauma-informed coach and single mother, as she strips away the masks we wear to dive deep into the heart of healing and rebuilding relationships after experiencing trauma.
In this episode, Angela shares her personal journey through emotional, physical, sexual, and verbal abuse, emphasizing the importance of true vulnerability. She discusses her past abusive relationships, the impact on her children, and the challenges of co-parenting with an abusive ex-partner.
Angela highlights the necessity of accepting one's past and understanding personal triggers to foster genuine connections with oneself and others. She also introduces her 12-week Connected Relationships Camp, aimed at helping individuals achieve extreme self-acceptance and emotional fulfillment.
Join us as we explore the tools, insights, and stories that will help you heal, connect, and redefine love and intimacy in the aftermath of trauma.

Unmasking Childhood Trauma: Understanding and Healing part 3

Welcome to the latest episode of "Who the Fuck is in the Mirror?" hosted by Angela Spooner, your emotional intelligence guide and trauma-informed coach. In this episode, we delve deep into the complexities of childhood trauma and attachment theories, exploring the groundbreaking work of John Bowlby and contrasting it with Freud's controversial views on infantile sexuality.
Angela shares her insights and personal reflections on how these theories have shaped our understanding of human behavior and relationships. She discusses the importance of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and the need for creating a secure attachment with our children. Through engaging anecdotes and thought-provoking discussions, Angela challenges us to rethink our own beliefs and behaviors.
Don't miss out on Angela's exciting announcement about the upcoming Transformation Camp and the revamped BFF Society Membership, designed to empower busy moms to confidently pursue their goals while building strong relationships with their loved ones.
Tune in for an enlightening journey towards self-discovery, healing, and becoming the best version of yourself!

Unmasking Childhood Trauma: Understanding and Healing part 2

Welcome to the "Who the Fuck is in the Mirror" podcast with your host, Angela Spooner. Join Angela, an emotional intelligence guide, trauma-informed coach, yoga instructor, and badass single mom, as she takes you on a journey of self-discovery and transformation.
In this episode, Angela dives deep into the science behind our dysfunctional behaviors and how trauma impacts our perception of the world. She reflects on studies involving children who have experienced extreme trauma and discusses how their worldviews are shaped by their experiences.
Angela also shares personal anecdotes and insights from her own journey of overcoming trauma and finding her true self. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and resilience in transforming our lives.
Don't miss out on Angela's exciting announcement about her upcoming BFF Society membership and the 12-week Transformation Camp designed to help you become your most confident and empowered self.
Join Angela in this thought-provoking episode as she explores the attachment theory, the challenges of healing from trauma, and the incredible potential for growth and change. Tune in and discover how you can rewrite your story and become the badass you were always meant to be.

Unmasking Childhood Trauma: Understanding and Healing part 1

Welcome to the "Who the Fuck is in the Mirror" podcast with your host, Angela Spooner. In this episode, Angela dives into chapter seven of "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, focusing on attachment and attunement. This chapter explores the critical role of being understood and the profound impact of trauma on children's brain development and emotional regulation.Angela discusses the challenges traumatized children face in processing their experiences, highlighting how their perceptions differ starkly from those of non-traumatized children. Through compelling anecdotes and personal reflections, she sheds light on the complexities of diagnosing and treating trauma in children, emphasizing the importance of understanding and compassion.Join Angela as she unpacks the science behind trauma's effects on the brain, the misdiagnosis of ADHD, and the crucial need for advocacy and empathetic support for traumatized children. This episode is a call to action for parents, caregivers, and mental health professionals to listen, communicate, and help children—and themselves—heal and thrive.Stay tuned for more insightful discussions as Angela continues to explore these vital topics in upcoming episodes.

A Mother's Battle: From Trauma to Triumph

Welcome to another episode of "Who the Fuck is in the Mirror?" Today, Angela switches things up by being interviewed about her harrowing experience with the Department of Child Safety (DCS). Angela shares the traumatic events that led her to call DCS, only to face further turmoil and accusations. As she navigates the challenges of protecting her children from an abusive ex, Angela reveals how this ordeal transformed her life and fueled her journey towards healing and empowerment.
Joshua, who is unaware of the full details, digs deep into Angela's story, uncovering the emotional and psychological battles she faced. The episode highlights the severe impact of emotional abuse and the resilience required to overcome such adversity. Angela's candid recounting of her struggles and triumphs serves as an inspiration for all, especially mothers grappling with guilt and trauma.
Listen in as Angela and Joshua discuss the importance of standing up for oneself and the transformative power of vulnerability. Angela's journey from victim to victor is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the unyielding pursuit of personal growth. Don't miss this powerful and raw episode that sheds light on the complexities of abuse, resilience, and the path to self-discovery.

Embrace the Mental Chaos: Transforming Mistakes into Mastery

Welcome to the "Who the Fuck is in the Mirror" podcast hosted by Angela Spooner, your guide to emotional intelligence, trauma-informed coaching, and self-discovery. In this episode, Angela teams up with Tammy from Rising with RLP Holistic Wellness for an unfiltered conversation about embracing mistakes and transforming them into opportunities for growth.
Join Angela and Tammy as they share their personal journeys, discussing the importance of being authentic, setting boundaries, and continuously learning from every experience. They dive into the science of self-awareness, the power of shadow work, and the significance of putting yourself first to become the best version of you.
Get ready for a candid, raw, and real discussion that will inspire you to accept your flaws, learn from your lessons, and move forward with confidence. Tune in and discover how to turn your self-doubt and insecurities into self-aware badass confidence and understanding.